Let’s talk about male love interests.
They’re sexy! They’re steamy! They’re…stalkers?
This has been catching my eye A LOT lately, in both fiction *cough Edward Cullen cough* and in film. Agent Colleen Lindsay points out that even the man of steel, Superman, in Superman Returns, HOVERS outside Lois’s bedroom window.
I’ve been thinking about the fine line between male love interests being POSSESSIVE (read: Edward Cullen with his sparkly eyes hissing "Mine!") versus PROTECTIVE (I just finished Lament, and I’d put Luke in this category). And what disturbs me is that the majority seem to be falling on the possessive side. There seems to be an interest in promoting that as sexy, desirable (I harp on it because of stories like Twilight’s influence over young girls). But in my opinion, it’s going a step too far. Protective is sexy. Possessive is…troubling. Troubling for its prevalence and for the messages it sends.
In The Near Witch, there are two male characters. As I started writing them, I was astounded by how one was so much more attractive to me than the other. And I realized it was because one character, Tyler, was incredibly possessive of my MC, whereas the the other character, Cole, was protective of her.
So, if the boy:
-Hovers/stands outside your window or IN your room while you sleep.
-Refers to you as a possession, or uses terms like "mine!"
-Speaks to you in terms of "Forever," "Never" (or you speak back in those terms, as in Bella’s case)
-Is frequently putting arms around shoulders/neck, grabbing wrists, or other physically dominant behavior…
This might be an unhealthy relationship.
What are your thoughts on this trend?